Traditions? we don’t need no stinking traditions.

What traditions have you not kept that your parents had?

My family did not have many traditions. We did go to Albanese’s pizza in Eastchester on occasion . My sister Robin and I went to church on Sundays, nobody else did. I’m not sure that’s a tradition but rather was a reason for some parent time on Sundays. When I was married we attended church on Sundays but that ended after our divorce. Not sure that qualifies either. My daughter and I still vacation for a week in the summer, and sometimes in February. That’s almost a tradition. I guess seeing my kids on Christmas Eve Issa traditional as we get, well that and Thanksgiving every other year. Yes those do qualify.

I guess I am more traditional than I thought.

How bad is Trump 2.0 so far…

Evaluating President Trump’s performance involves considering various aspects, including economic policies, international relations, and domestic governance. Here’s an overview based on recent developments:

Economic Policies

President Trump’s recent tariff policies, particularly those targeting Canadian fuels, have raised concerns about increasing energy costs. Governor Maura Healey of Massachusetts highlighted that these tariffs could lead to significant hikes in gas and heating oil prices, potentially costing Massachusetts consumers nearly $1 billion. 

Additionally, public sentiment reflects dissatisfaction with the administration’s handling of inflation. Consumers have expressed frustration over persistent high prices of everyday goods, with some feeling that federal relief has been insufficient. This discontent has contributed to a decline in consumer confidence and a drop in consumer spending, affecting various sectors of the economy. 

International Relations

Trump’s approach to foreign policy has been characterized by a departure from traditional diplomatic norms. His actions have led to a more unpredictable global landscape, with longstanding treaties and alliances being challenged. This shift has raised concerns about global stability and the undermining of democratic values. 

Domestic Governance

Domestically, Trump’s administration has been marked by unconventional appointments and a focus on media spectacle over traditional policymaking. This blending of entertainment and politics has led to concerns about the erosion of democratic principles and a turbulent political environment. 

Public Perception

Public opinion on Trump’s presidency is deeply divided. While some supporters remain hopeful about his policies, others express regret over their electoral choices, citing unmet expectations regarding economic relief and policy outcomes. 

In summary, assessments of President Trump’s performance vary widely. Critics point to economic challenges, strained international relations, and unconventional governance as areas of concern, while supporters may view his actions as necessary disruptions to the status quo.

My dream home

Daily writing prompt
Write about your dream home.

I think my dream home is ultimately 2 tiny houses. 1 on Cape Cod and another in a southern state maybe North Carolina. Less seems to be more with me as I get older. Less furniture to bump into and self-preservation is my goal. Although I am fit I still crash into shit all the time.

I found a cool article about the small house ideas and a list of pros and cons. You can read it here.

A year ago today.

Daily writing prompt
Is your life today what you pictured a year ago?

A year ago today I was working and making a decent living working with a large intergrator of audio-visual equipment installation and support. I am doing so much more comfortably now with an international company that does the same thing today. The difference is respect and support. My current company has that. That’s all I will say about that.

I am healthier this year, I’ve lost weight. I am in a healthy relationship with a very nice woman and look forward to next year with optimistic anticipation. Last year, I was told my contract was ending after the holiday. I was looking for my next adventure and admittedly I was not in as happy a place as I am now.

If you are looking for a new job as the year closes, keep at it. Jobs are out there. It may take longer because executives are out shopping rather than scheduling interviews. Be patient and good things will happen, I am living proof.

Performing inartistry.

Daily writing prompt
Have you ever performed on stage or given a speech?

I have performed and or spoken for better or for worse

My first performance came in a Christmas play in Scarsdale, NY, at the Scarsdale congregational church. It was a musical journey around the world to see how Christmas was celebrated and the songs the countries sang. It rehearsed at about 3.5 hours. During the only performance, I skipped a line or two, and my gaff skipped over the Eastern block countries entirely. This shaved an hour off the show, you are welcome. Shirley Bloomquist the writer and director was not amused.

There was a band I sang in with my teen friends Jonathan, Monte, Bruce, Doug and John D. Our big gimmick was rotating from position to position like a drunk volleyball team. I say frunk because we were also drinking Monte’s mother’s blackberry brandy that I stole from her Marjon parlor. Sorry, Monte..

Back when social media was just starting out I spoke with a bunch of guys we called ourselves the visual suspects ( yes that was mine) We all talked about the impending use of video in social media that seemed to take forever to come to fruition.

Matt, Steve, Robert, Joselin and I talked about different aspects of video. I rambled on about something us older kids called TV. This was for Podcamp in Boston which was for podcasters, bloggers and anyone on Twitter. You got to meet and greet people you sort of knew online. You could hear people talk about Twitter, Instagram, Facebook and inbound marketing. It was cool to do and it actually generated some business which was good also.

Most recently I was seen crooning on Mad fish Wharf in Gloucester. An impromptu band was assembled and in my post-dinner revelry I decided I could still sing, I held my own singing a Billy Joel song with some very wasted folks and the encore song never materialized because of this sadly. That Fleetwood Mac song was spared for sure.

Favorite Physical activities

Daily writing prompt
What are your favorite physical activities or exercises?

So before this blog post goes Xrated, (IYKYK), Cycling is still one of my favorite things to do. I originally bought a carbon fiber Trek Madone when I got divorced. My ex bought a lady sportster Harley. Many years later, I still log about 200 miles a year on my bicycle. My ex gave her lady sportster to her 70-something dad and he rides it in Vero Beach Florida I have heard ( Don’t tell him it’s a girl’s Harley) Ooops.

Something about being on the road by yourself, getting the heart racing and the blood pumping, is great. The downside is the Masshole drivers’ inability to see a biker on a sunny day, or worse distracted drivers.

Years ago a distracted nanny was in a Honda Odyssey cranking the tunes with some rich ladies’ toddlers in the back when she pulled a right turn in front of me in Wellesley Center. I slammed on the brakes, vaulted my handlebars, and hit the passenger door as the nanny van drove off. She was totally unaware that my body had indented the passenger door.

A passer-by got her plate and she was later arraigned for hit and run. I’ve had other close calls, The bloody crash on the way to Boston Media Makers breakfast, The small kid running and screaming in front of me in Rockport, so many great memories.

The bottom line is I still enjoy it and while I will not be fund-riding anymore ( you cheap bastards) I will still log about 200 miles a summer unless somebody finally does me in.

My famous Simple Pasta recipe

So years ago my kids liked Kraft Mac and Cheese then Annie’s but I wasn’t crazy about all the other stuff in either of them so I created simple Pasta. This started with butter and shaker cheese but morphed into something better.

Ingredients: 1 Box Ronzoni Vegetable Pasta, I tub Mascarpone cheese, 2 table spoons minced Garlic , 3 large broccoli crowns, salt and pepper.

Directions: Bring a large boiling pan filled with water to a boil. While the water is boiling, separate and cut all broccoli from the crowns. When the water is rolling, put the broccoli crowns and pasta and cook according to the pasta recommendations on the box (about 11 minutes).

Drain the pasta and broccoli, return them to the boiling pan, and add the tub of Mascarpone cheese, along with the 2 tablespoons of minced garlic. Salt and pepper to taste. Pretty simple.

Warning kids will love this and will be getting their vegetables also.

BON APPETITE!

Please help

greatcyclechallenge.com/Riders/SkipBensley

I have lost much this year, almost making passing away normal to me. This should never happen to parents with children battling cancer. This September I ride again to raise money for pediatric cancer. No amount is too small and I need your help. Please donate anything you can, if everyone chips in dollar I will reach my goal. Thank you for your support

My sister Robin has passed away.

Robin Leigh Arena

May 18, 2023

Robin Leigh Arena, 59, wife of Erive Urena of Norwalk passed away unexpectedly on Thursday, May 18, 2023.

Born in Chicago, IL, on July 10, 1963, she was the daughter of the late Robert R. and Sharon Howard Bensley.

Robin had a way of lighting up any room she entered. You could feel her warmth with every smile and hug she would offer you. Her kindness in every day life, from providing food for a local homeless man for many years, to having meaningful conversations with the cashiers at CVS. No matter stranger or loved one Robin welcomed you into her heart with open arms. Her love will forever live within us as we carry on her legacy trying to be the best versions of ourselves for her.

In addition to her husband, Erive, Robin is survived by her daughters Jordan Arena of Norwalk, CT and Sarah Arena of Los Angeles, CA. Siblings Robert (Skip) Bensley and Vicki Stevenson.

Calling hours will be held on Thursday, May 25, from 4:00 to 7:00 PM at Collins Funeral Home, 92 East Avenue, Norwalk, CT. 

For those who wish to send flowers to the family of Robin Arena, please visit https://www.brucesflowers.com/. Floral arrangements can be sent to Collins Funeral Home. Please ensure that the flowers arrive no later than 5/25 to be included in the service.